Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Recipe For Happiness




I visited the Dartmouth College Bookstore a few weeks ago while in Hanover, and I was thumbing through the bestsellers displayed on the table right when you walk in. I always look for the religious books to see what people are reading these days. There was a book by the Dalai Lama, as there usually is. I opened it up and the first words were these: “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” Those words could have been written by an American prosperity gospel preacher as much as a Tibetan Buddhist monk – although they are clearly coming from different perspectives. We Americans desire to be happy. We have the “pursuit of happiness” written into our Declaration of Independence as one of our "unalienable rights" given to us by our Creator and for the protection of which our forefathers formed these United States of America. The pursuit of happiness is part of our American DNA. I was not surprised to hear that phrase extolled by Chuck Estano, the keynote speaker at the Memorial Day ceremony in Sandwich this year. 

There was an op-ed piece in the New York Times on May 29 written by T. M. Luhrmann, a professor of anthropology at Stanford and the author of “When God Talks Back: Understanding the American Evangelical Relationship With God.” The article was entitled “Belief is the Least Part of Faith.” He was saying that it was not belief that is at the heart of evangelical Christianity. He wrote: “To be clear, I am not arguing that belief is not important to Christians. It is obviously important. But secular Americans often think that the most important thing to understand about religion is why people believe in God, because we think that belief precedes action and explains choice. That’s part of our folk model of the mind: that belief comes first. And that was not really what I saw after my years spending time in evangelical churches. I saw that people went to church to experience joy and to learn how to have more of it.

This joy or happiness is what I am talking about today. I will be using the beatitudes as my text this morning. That is because a popular modern translation uses the word “happy” in the beatitudes. Instead of the familiar “Blessed are the poor in spirit, etc.” Today's English Version (also known as the Good News Translation or the Good News Bible) replaces the word blessed with the word happy: “Happy are you poor, happy are you who are hungry now, happy are you who weep now, Happy are you when people hate you.” These sound like very strange words to our ears. Are the translators correct in rendering it in this fashion? I think the word “blessed” is a much richer, deeper and broader term, and generally I prefer it. But happiness is part of what it means to be blessed. So it is not incorrect to use the word here. That is clear by the fact that all translations will end the beatitudes with words like: “Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven….” To rejoice, be glad, and be happy are part of what Jesus is part of what Jesus means by “blessed” in the beatitudes. In these beatitudes Jesus is giving us a recipe for happiness. It is a very different understanding of happiness than what the world offers.

1. First, Happiness is not dependent upon what you own. “Blessed are the poor in spirit, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” Poor in spirit does not mean spiritually poor (even though some translations take that route.) Jesus is talking about material wealth, not spiritual wealth. He makes that clear in Luke’s form of the beatitudes which omits the phrase “in spirit.” There Jesus says simply “blessed are you poor” or (as the TEV translation says) of “Happy are you poor.” But the phrase “poor in spirit” is helpful for it tells us that what matters is the spirit in which we possess things. What matters is our attitude. We are to treat possessions lightly; as if it made little difference whether we had them or not. Happiness is not dependent on whether we are financially rich or poor. Rich people can be miserable. Poor people can be miserable also. Especially if they so poor they do not have the necessities of life – if they are starving to death. You have to have the necessities of life, but above that it doesn’t really matter that much. It doesn’t matter how much we possess. It matters how much things possess us. “Poor in spirit” refers to being unattached to material wealth, whether we have much or little.

In the May 27 edition of UA Today there was an article entitled, “Can wealth really buy happiness?” It presented the findings of a new study by the Brookings Institution. It found that to a certain extent wealth can buy happiness, seeming to contradict Jesus’ teaching and another well-publicized 2010 study that indicated that money did not make people happier. But it really doesn’t say that when you read it closely. The subtitle for the article read: “If money isn't buying you joy, you're probably not spending it right.” The article concludes by saying, “So can money buy happiness? The answer turns out to be complicated, because happiness is complicated. But if money isn't buying you happiness, we do know this: You're probably not spending it right.” The article confirms that money is not making people happy. People with money are happy only if they spent money on people rather than possessions. Basically it says that true wealth and happiness is measured in relationships.  Helping people, not making money, makes you happy.

2. Second, happiness is found in embracing all emotions – even the strong negative ones. Jesus said, “Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.” Or as the TEV puts t “Happy are those who mourn.” That makes no sense on the surface. Those who are mourning are the least happy! Grief is one of the strongest, saddest emotions that one can have. How can one be happy when one is sad? When Jesus says happy or blessed are those who mourn, he is saying that strong emotions will come and go, but the comfort of God remains forever. “Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.”

True joy – which is the word I generally prefer over happiness – can be the background of our lives. It can be the default setting of our hearts. Sure we will be sad sometimes. When bad things happen, we will be sad. Something would be psychologically wrong with us if we weren’t! We will sometimes be very, very sad. But it will pass. And when it passes the underlying joy will return. As psalm 30 says, “weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” It is alright to be sad. It is alright to be unhappy sometimes. I don’t trust people who always have a smile on their face. I have known preachers who wear a perpetual grin. I don’t trust them. It just doesn’t seem genuine. There are some things in life that you just can’t grin about. There are some times in life when we should cry and be angry about and be sad. We should not try to suppress feelings of loss and grief and sadness because we think it is not spiritual or not faithful. It is much healthier to experience and express these emotions fully and completely. Let whatever emotions that arise come. They won’t stay forever. Emotions have a life span; we can feel them ebb and flow. If we try to stop that natural process, we will get ourselves into psychological trouble. Feel whatever you are feeling; let emotions come and go, and when they have run their course joy will return.

3.Third, happiness is selflessness. “Blessed are the meek,” says Jesus. “Happy are those who are humble.” I would interpret this to refer to the selfless. Selfishness makes you unhappy; selflessness makes you happy. That is what that Brookings institution study found. The more you give yourself away the happier you are. Take Bill and Melinda Gates for example. Bill Gates, of course, is the founder of Microsoft. They are among the richest people in the world today. They are not religious at all. But they certainly appear to be happy. They are happy because they spending their fortune to help as many people as they can. I don’t know if you would call Bill Gates meek or humble, by the normal definitions of those words. But maybe we need to redefine those words. Scripture calls Moses meek. Numbers 12:3 says, “Now the man Moses was very meek, more than all people who were on the face of the earth.” But Moses was no doormat; he was a strong personality and a strong leader. So is Bill Gates.

I think humble and meek really mean selfless. Self gets in the way of our own happiness. Selfishness is the problem, and selflessness is the solution. It is not the external circumstances of our lives that make us happy or unhappy. It is how we approach life. And the strange truth is the less we think about and are preoccupied with ourselves and our happiness, the happier we are. It is a paradox..  The less we are the center of our lives, the more happy we are. The more we empty ourselves the more we can be filled with the joy of God. “Have this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,“ the apostle Paul says, “who though he was in the form of God did not consider quality with God something to be grasped, but emptied himself, taking the form of a servant.” One of the main ingredients in the recipe for happiness is selflessness.

4. Fourth, happiness comes when we hunger for what is right. “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, For they shall be filled.” “Happy are those whose greatest desire is to do what God requires; God will satisfy them fully!” This is talking about morality and ethics. Too many people think of morality as a restrictive set of rules and laws that force us to do what you don’t want to do. And when we are forced to do what we don’t want to do we are unhappy. The key to happiness is to want to do what God wants. When you hunger and thirst to do what is right, there is joy! The Good News Translation of Psalm 1 says, “Happy are those who reject the advice of evil people, who do not follow the example of sinners     or join those who have no use for God. 2 Instead, they find joy in obeying the Law of the Lord, and they study it day and night.”

Some people think religion is a joyless affair. Unfortunately that is true of some religious people. I have known some very miserable people who call themselves Christians. But a truly spiritual Christian is one  who has been so transformed by the Holy Spirit that he/she loves what God loves and desires what God desires. The commandments of God are not burdensome “Thou shalt nots.” They are a joy. Because they have united with God by Christ and the Spirit, they want what God wants. It makes them happy to make God happy! 

5. Fifth, if you want to be happy, forgive. “Blessed are the merciful, For they shall obtain mercy.” “Happy are those who are merciful to others; God will be merciful to them!” My experience as a pastor is that one of the major causes of unhappiness in people’s lives is their unwillingness to forgive – unwillingness to show mercy to people who have hurt them. People hold resentments for days, weeks, months, even years. Somebody did something or said something and people will not let it go. That is unhealthy and it dampens the joy of life. I encourage you to forgive everyone who has ever done anything wrong to you, no matter what it is. To forgive someone doesn’t mean that what they did was alright or that you will let it happen again. Just the opposite; we only need to forgive someone who has done something wrong. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be legal consequences for wrongdoing. Justice is as much an attribute of God as forgiveness. Mercy and justice and not contradictory; they are complementary.

The Biblical word for forgive means simply “to let go.” The word picture is that of a clenched fist that is opened. It means you no longer hold onto the hurt and pain. What that person did to you may be a terrible thing! Then why would you want to carry that terrible thought around with you? Let it go! Forgive it and forget it and you will be happier. The same with our attitude God. Some people get angry with God. Something happened in their lives and they won’t forgive God for letting it happen. They will not step foot inside a church while alive, and these days they don’t even have to be buried from a church. I was talking to a funeral director not long ago. He told me about the three biggest trends in funerals in the last decade. They are (1) cremation (2) nonreligious funerals, and (3) no funeral or memorial service at all. People get mad at God or they get mad at a church or church people, and they never let it go. To forgive means to let it go. That is what the mercy of God means. When God forgives God lets go of our sins, as if they never happened. It doesn’t mean there is no such thing as sin. It means that sin has been dealt with through the Cross. Because of the love of God and the justice of God demonstrated in the death of Jesus, God lets go. God gives us the power to let go.

6. Sixth, happiness is purity of heart. “Blessed are the pure in heart, (Happy are the pure in heart) For they shall see God.” That verse is worth a whole sermon in itself. How do we become pure in heart? God does it by his grace; he purifies us and sanctifies us. But we need to do some things make that a living reality in our experience. This happens with spiritual disciplines like prayer, meditation, confession, repentance. I don’t think most Christians are serious enough about spiritual practices, doing the inner spiritual work of purification. Jesus said to the Pharisees “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness. 28 Even so you also outwardly appear righteous to men, but inside you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness.” A lot of Christians look good when it comes to the externals, but not the internal. Scripture says, “man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” The insides are cleaned when we open up our hearts and minds and souls to the Holy Spirit. We do this by an inner decision and attitude and daily practice of surrendering our hearts to God.

7. Seventh, happiness is peacemaking. “Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God.” “Happy are those who work for peace; God will call them his children!” We live in a warring world. Wars and rumors of wars abound. The new type of guerilla warfare called Islamic terrorism is horrible. People are killing innocent bystanders in the name of God! That is spiritually pathological! It shows the depths of depravity to which religion can go. But all warring is caused by the warring within the human heart. James says in his letter, “Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? 2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war.” Peterson’s translation puts it this way: “1-2 Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves.” Conflict in the world is caused by conflict within the human heart. It will only be ended when the human heart is at peace with itself and at peace with God. That is the only way to happiness.

8. Lastly, happiness can be found even in persecution. Jesus said, “Happy are those who are persecuted because they do what God requires; the Kingdom of heaven belongs to them! 11 “Happy are you when people insult you and persecute you and tell all kinds of evil lies against you because you are my followers. 12 Be happy and glad, for a great reward is kept for you in heaven.” A couple of weeks ago I asked for prayer for Pastor Saeed Abedini, the American pastor serving an eight year prison sentence in Iran for his faith. His wife spoke at the UN Human Rights Council on Monday urging nations to fight for the release of her husband, but our government seems uninvolved. Anyway, on May 22 he wrote a letter from prison to his wife in America. He wrote: “I heard that the persecution, my arrest and imprisonment has united churches from different denominations, from different cities and countries, that would never come together because of their differences…. You don’t know how happy I was in the Lord and rejoiced knowing that in my chains the body of Christ has chained together and is brought to action and prayer.” He writes of joy in persecution, much like the apostle Paul often did in his letters.

We Americans don’t know what persecution is. We do know prejudice though. Anti-Christian prejudice is increasingly being recognized as a problem in America; some are calling it Christophobia. There is an anti-christian prejudice voiced by many people in this country. It is one of the last remaining socially acceptable forms of bigotry in our country. People will be called on the carpet for saying or writing anything racist, anti-semitic, or homophobic. But people can speak against Christians, against evangelicals, the institutional church and organized religion (which is code language for Christianity). People repeat offensive stereotypes of Christians as ignorant, hypocrites and bigots, and people just smile and agree.

I might be oversensitive to it because of my position as a church leader, but I hear it so much; it is pervasive and offensive to me. It is socially acceptable to be anti-Christian in our country. Many people are prejudiced against Christians and don’t even know it, the way many of us did not recognize our own racist attitudes back in the 1960’s. Hopefully this will change. Thankfully we are not experiencing persecution in this country; there are too many Christians with too much power. But many countries are experiencing increasing persecution of Christian communities. A report just issued by the Vatican two weeks ago to the UN’s Human Rights Council in Geneva reported that a staggering 100,000 Christians are killed annually because of their faith. Christianity is the most persecuted religion in the world today. Several human rights groups report that anti-Christian violence is on the rise in countries like Pakistan, Nigeria and Egypt. The so-called Arab Spring has released anti-Christian violence in many lands.


What should be our response as Christians? Jesus says, “Blessed are those who are persecuted. Happy are you when people insult you and persecute you and tell all kinds of evil lies against you because you are my followers. 12 Be happy and glad, for a great reward is kept for you in heaven.” I admit to you that I am not there yet. This is something I need to learn, and I haven’t learned it yet. But the persecuted Church is teaching me this as I hear and read their testimonies of joy in the midsts of persecution. It is part of Jesus’ recipe for happiness. I hope you will join with me in heeding all eight of Jesus’ beatitudes and put into practice in our lives Christ’s recipe for happiness. 

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